- started fights whenever you want to go out or spend time with friends
- put your family/friends down
- made you feel guilty when you spend time away from him/her
- although it is not said directly, you always feel like you must ask before going out
- refused to care for the children as you are preparing to leave
- made you account for every moment of the time you are gone — who you are with, where you went, who you saw, what you did, etc.
- made you late for work so many times, you lose your job
- accused you of having affairs
- monitor your use of the car
- taken the phone or car keys when he/she leaves
- locked you in a room when he/she leaves
