- treated you like a servant
- made all the “big” decisions, telling you what to do
- acted like the “master of the castle” using that to justify abusive behaviors
- used heterosexism or homophobia to put you in fear
- threatened to “out” you to family or coworkers
- said you aren’t a “real” LGBTQIA
- threatened to tell your children or former partner that you are in a relationship with a an individual of the same gender.